The
other day I got home from work, tired and just wanted to eat a meal in
peace. I wanted the boys to happily sit
down and enjoy dinner and to allow me twenty minutes to relax. But it never happens that way. I am always eating a meal while wrangling
boys. On this particular day, I sat down
to eat and heard a commotion in the den of my mother and father’s house. I heard the front door open and close. Ryder then came running into the room wanting
my mother’s grabber (you know, those mechanical arms meant to get stuff off
shelves too high to reach). It was
followed by wild giggling from mom and dad’s room. When I went to check out
what was happening, I saw two pairs of legs showing from under the bed. I realized Sawyer had let in the neighbor’s
cat and the boys were excitedly trying to fetch it from under the bed…with a
mechanical grabber. This was just a ten
minute portion of a night of rambunctious boy behavior. Needless to say, I did not get a relaxing
meal.
Today, Ryder is 5 and a half and
Sawyer is a month away from turning 3.
And me, I am as tired as ever. My boys are rambunctious, demanding; they
are rough as cobs and stubborn as mules.
They never stop, ever. From the moment they get up to the moment they go
to sleep, they are into something. They are famous for their shenanigans. Just this week I found a pocket full of glass
shards in Ryder’s jacket, to which he explained he had been playing glass
factory in a ditch at school, and on Saturday, I walked into my kitchen to find
him breaking every egg I had into a boiler pot and stirring it with a
whisk. Instead of looking guilty he
asked for white powder stuff (flour) to add to his “cake.” The amount of messes
I clean up with these two is endless.
Ryder
is my blonde haired Dennis the Menace.
He talks always. He is
inquisitive, independent, unfocused and when he truly sets his mind on
something (like wanting a new character on a video game or a new Lego to play
with), he will wear me down to a nub until the end result is one he is
satisfied with. He is loud and forceful.
He can talk my ear off about practically anything. And, as crazy as it sounds, I do not know how
I would function without him being just the way he is. Don’t get me wrong, there
are times (like, everyday) when I want him to stop, hush, sit down, and be
still. But the infinite moments of
laughter, joy and hilarity he has brought into my life cannot be counted. I can go from upset and frustrated to
giggling and smiling with just one funny comment from my never ending provider
of laughs.
Sawyer, on the other hand, is
physical. If it is there, he can climb
it. He is bossy and picky and can give looks that kill. He is a ninja and a sword slinger and always
has a handheld action figure with him. Despite being almost 3, he still requires me to rock him to sleep every night, and no matter how tired I am and how much I just want him to go to sleep, I still enjoy those nightly cuddles from my baby who is almost no longer a baby. And at night, often, I do just want to go to sleep, and honestly, neither boy sleeps well; I joke I haven’t had REM sleep since the summer
of 2008. They keep me on the move all
day, and half the time, they keep me up part of the night too. With them, I am worn out, but without them, I
can’t imagine how I would survive.
My
boys are my life, and my life is sometimes hectic and overwhelming and tiring.
But I have decided that the tired I feel at the end of every day is worth it. I
believe in being tired. I believe in the
moments when I think I am going to give up, but instead realize I have learned
something about myself, about parenthood, about a love that knows no limits, no
matter how exhausted that love is. I believe that the amount of work and effort
I pour out of me and into my children will pay off in the long run when they
grow into men who will realize just how much I loved them and how hard I fought
to raise them. It will be what they
remember. They may not know how hard it
was at times or how frustrated I may have felt, or even how happy they made me
or how funny they were, but they will know that I worked non-stop, tirelessly
to be the best mother to them that I could possibly be. And sure, I am not perfect. I get mad and yell; I get annoyed and
irritated too at times, but even in my most exhausting moments, I know I
wouldn’t trade that feeling in for the world.
When I look at my sweet boys’ faces at night, as they sleep looking like
chubby cherubs, I know that all of the hard work and all of the moments where I
feel worn out are worth it to know that literally every ounce of my being is
invested in being their mother, their caretaker, their playmate, their nurse
and their friend. Being tired has
taught me more about love than any other feeling in the world.
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